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my palolo (boyfriend)

Yeah not really. His name is Paulo and he is the nephew of my host mom. She talked about his all week and was so excited for us to meet, in fact the WHOLE family wanted us to meet and to fall in love and they began to refer to him as my palolo and make comments about how cute we are together. So I am blushing just about all day and trying to correct the wrong without being rude, but in all honesty Paulo is great and if I were not looking for a guy who loves God more than he loves me, yeah I would be with Paulo. For one, he is really cute (kinda nerdy, just like I like them) for two, he is nice and not as machisimo as alot of other chilenos. He doesn´t like it when girls are drunk and he said he can have fun himself without being drunk. He is the second chilean over the age of 16 that I have met who doesn´t smoke. BUT, hahaha, just in case I was going to be stupid again, like I was with Alberto, God made sure that I am NOT attracted to Paulo. You see, Paulo and I were having a tea party hosted by the three year old daughter of Claudia, when we got on the subject of accents. When Germany came up, he said it. He said "Heil Hitler". I could not believe it. I waited a few minutes after so I wasn´t obviously rude and then I excused myself and left. I am smiling about it now, but I sure wasn´t then. I HATE it when they say that! I cannot believe how inconsiderate it is toward me and towards Germans in general! Not that they say it purposefully to hurt us, but they are just ignorant of how rude it is. So there are no wedding bells ringing for us any time soon.

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Anonymous said…
hi sweetie

you might want to just tell him "i'm sure you didn't realize that this would hurt my feelings. but when you said 'heil hitler', it upset me. even if i weren't jewish, it would bother me. but since i am jewish, and many members of my family died in the holocaust, it bothered me when you said what you did."

and then drop it.

many people are ignorant, but have basically good hearts. you can educate them.

love

mom
7:52 AM
beckalippy said…
Yeah, all I need now is my dictionary for all those words... I know mom, I should say something, but it is difficult to make that move when you are in a culture where you don´t understand all the cultural norms. Maybe I am just chicken, but for now, I am going to pass on correcting people´s ignorance. I think, no I know that if I were in the States I would say something. But that type of comment leads to a very heavy conversation that I am not ready for right now. Thanks for the advice though... I love you
3:27 PM
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