Thursday, December 22, 2005

A resolution

Okay, there are some people who read this and have never met me in person, but let me explain something about myself. I am probably the MOST hopeless romantic you could ever meet. The disease has been affecting my mind for quite some time and the doctors are dumbfounded by what to do. No, but really. Okay, with that said...
I was walking and talking with the Lord the other day, and I realized that I am okay being single (this feeling will probably last a week or so). Going to Cal Poly and having a wedding to go to practically every week, was hard on us single girls. At least in the states, there is this culture for single women, it is almost cool to be single. (LIke the Sex in the City girls). But then, I come here to Chile where few get married, but EVERYONE has their palolo (boyfriend or girlfriend). And with all the cultural pressure to just date someone, not because they are the ONE, or even because you really like them, but just because why be single if you can be with someone. That mentality of anti-singleness is hard to combat.
But a friend recently told me about this man they kinda know who is just radical in his love for others. He lived with homeless people for a while to serve them and tell them about Christ and as she was telling me about him (the conversation started off with ¨I´ve found the perfect man for you¨) I realized that I don´t want anything less. I will not date a guy just becuase it is better to date than be alone. Of course I want to be with someone, but I believe that the satisfaction that comes from being with someone will be bittersweet unless that person is who God created me to be with. SO, I will wait. Somehow, moving to a distant land, with a different culture and language is not as difficult as this challenge at hand... but the reward will be so sweet.

5 comments:

Rach said...

Hello again my love...... this is a great blog! If this blog doesn't hold you accountable, you will always have my annoying self pulling you into the deep end of the accountability pool, asking you to take a swim with me as we remind ourselves that dating has a purpose...to please our Lord, and if it is not geared towards that, then it's going to the shallow end....I'll even force "it" to wear those water wing thingys. Regardless of what anyone tells you...enjoy life, have fun while you're young, dating casually is fine at your age....ignore that if it does not line up with your convictions you have from the Lord, whatever those may be. It is when we go after His heart that we truly experience/enjoy life (which I know you know0. I will be praying for you and always supporting you my dear. The Lord appreciates your commitment to Him so much.

me

Lara Nichols said...

ok, so you don't know me... butI'm roommates with Rach and wanted to say that this is sooooooooo good to hear. I think about this all the time (better to be alone then with the wrong person, not the person God has for you) and although it's hard, ok really really hard sometimes to see couples together, I know this is best also...
thanks for the reminder to keep trusting God :)

Emerald said...

BECKA

I GOT INTO CAL POLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

much love,
Emerald

beckalippy said...

EMMMM!!!! Congrats! When do you start? Is it for next fall? Do you know what your housing is going to look like yet? Letme know!!! I also want to give you the numbers of my friends from church, or give them your number. Congrats darling!

beckalippy said...

And Rach and Lara,
Thanks so mcuh for the encouragement girls!