So it is 3:30 in the morning and I just got home. I was set up on a blind date by my friend who is worried about my "lack of dating". Well this one didn't encourage me to try harder. First of all, I don't social date. Meaning I don't go out on dates just for the sake of going out on dates. When I go out on a date, it is because I like the guy and I think there is a possibilty of something happening. So when my friend told me that she had set me up on a blind date with one of her students, I was a little hesitant. She told me to relax and just enjoy the fact that I am single (she is not) and to let the guys spoil me. So this guy called me and I told him that I have church until 10 on fridays, but afterwards we could do something. So he called me tonight at 10 and asked if I could come to his part of town (the first no-no). I asked him how I was going to get home afterwards since most public transportation stops at midnight or so. He said he would accompany me to my apartment by taxi. Okay. After 30 minutes in the subway, I arrive in his part of town and we find each other. Not that I was expecting someone in high school, , but he seemed a bit old for me so when the chancee arose, I asked him how old he is. He is 34! Then the whole girlfriend issue came up. Oh yes people. A girlfriend. It turns out that when my friend asked if he had a girlfriend he said no because his girlfriend works with him and it is against company policy. So my friend set me up with a guy who has a girlfriend. To make it worse, the girlfriend has no idea that we went out tonight. Not that anything happened between us, because believe me it didn't, but I still feel like I was encouraging his infidelity to her! Of course he made me swear not to tell my friend about his girlfriend because he is worried that she will tell his managers. Okay, so the whole way there I was thinking to myself what my manager had said about letting him spoil me. Okay. So tell me why as we are standing in line to buy the tickets to the movie, he mentions that we are doing this "american" style- meaning we each pay our own part!!!At least he let me pick the movie so we saw DiVinci Code, which I choose becuase i know that my dad is watching it tomorrow and I thought it would be cool to talk to him about it (this was teh highlight of the night). So we stand in line to get into the theater and I swear I am not boring company. But I could think of nothing to talk to his guy about. He lives with his parents, doesn't really care for his job but is planning on staying there, and somehow thinks that Anglicans Presbyterians and Catholics are the same thing (I am not asking for comments about the universality of the church, i just mean to say that he was obviously not up for a theological debate). The guys standing in the line in front of us were probably about 18 years old and I just remember thinking about how much fun it would be to be with them instead of my "date". So we get into the theater and i was so happy to see the movie start. That gave us an excuse for the horrible awkward silence that we had been sitting in for so long. half way through the movie, i look over to him and he was SLEEPING!!! Ahhh!!!
Okay, i won't go into anymore details since you are probably getting the picture by now. But basically this is all to say that the night wasn't some horrible night of pure pain, but it definitly reminded me of why I don't date just anyone and why I really just would rather wait for the right guy. The part that sucks is that I can't tell my friend everything about the date and really I don't want to see like the night was horrible, but I am definitly not doing this whole blind date thing again... at least not for a while!
Okay, i won't go into anymore details since you are probably getting the picture by now. But basically this is all to say that the night wasn't some horrible night of pure pain, but it definitly reminded me of why I don't date just anyone and why I really just would rather wait for the right guy. The part that sucks is that I can't tell my friend everything about the date and really I don't want to see like the night was horrible, but I am definitly not doing this whole blind date thing again... at least not for a while!
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well thanks for the letter, it was incredibly sweet, and i shall treasure it forever:) its such a rare and amazing thing for someone to have discovered their passion in life so young and to actually run with it. your a true inspiration becka.